Guest Post: Your secret mission (and why you couldn’t accomplish it if you were normal)



This is a guest post by Pace Smith. If you’d like to write a guest post for The Pillow Fort, you can find more details here.

In the Belgariad, my favourite fantasy series as a teen, there’s a god named UL who is the god of all the misfits. Monsters, freaks, and outcasts of all kinds come to UL’s territory to find a safe haven. The twist (spoiler alert!) is that UL turns out to be the father of all the gods, and the most powerful by far. The misfits are the Chosen Ones.

Something freakishly similar is happening in the real world.

I’m a Pathfinding Coach; I help people find their calling and follow their hearts. What kind of people would you expect to show up for this kind of work? I expected:

  • privileged
  • well-off
  • healthy
  • able-bodied
  • straight
  • cisgender
  • women

I expected that people would need to have their basic life needs taken care of (biological & physiological, safety, belongingness, etc.) before they would have the energy and motivation to pursue the calling of their heart (self-actualization, transcendence).

needsMaslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, image by cityblogger

I expected that people who weren’t healthy would be too busy dealing with health issues to pursue the calling of their heart.

I expected that GLBTQ folks would be too busy dealing with safety or belongingness issues to pursue the calling of their heart.

Boy, was I wrong.

In the 7 years I’ve been doing this work, here’s who actually shows up:

  • queer
  • chronically ill
  • sensitive
  • spiritual
  • misfits

By “misfits,” I mean people who don’t fit into mainstream culture in some way. And I think mainstream culture is the culprit. If you fit into the mainstream, you don’t need to listen to your heart. If you fit into the mainstream, you can live your life the way you’re expected to. You can get a job, make money, get married, have 2.5 kids, and retire. You can find your fulfilment by meeting others’ expectations, by going through the motions, by colouring inside the lines.

It’s only when you’re forced outside the mainstream that you’re forced to find your own path.

We Pathfinders are the antibodies in Earth’s immune system. Our mission is to heal what has been weakened by the destructive growth of the mainstream culture that is killing the Earth and deadening the souls of the human race.

We could not accomplish our mission from inside the shell of the mainstream. That shell had to crack – and we had to be exposed to the harshness of life outside the shell – for us to break free from the golden handcuffs of complacency.

Mainstream culture is designed to deaden. Media promotes fear, which disconnects us from each other and from our hearts. Advertisements promise that you will feel better if you consume, consume, consume. The companies we work for promise to take care of us if we obey, fit in, and don’t rock the boat.

It’s ridiculously hard to break free of that comfortable nest of numbness from the inside.

That’s why we had to be pushed out of the nest – so that we could learn to fly.

So, what does it mean to fly? I know what it means for me, but I don’t know what it means for you.

If the path before you is clear, you’re probably on someone else’s.” – Joseph Campbell

What I do know is that you are not alone. You are part of a team of Pathfinders, and we are all working together to heal and transform the world.

As a Pathfinder, it’s up to you to listen to your own heart, to choose your next step, to write your own story.

What will you choose?

Pace SmithGuest Blogger Bio

Pace Smith (The Pathfinding Coach) helps sensitive spiritual nonconformists live wild crazy meaningful lives. She’s also a bi poly trans gamer geek, an open-source Reiki healer, a tournament-level Dance Dance Revolution player, and the wife of an Oracle who acquired her gift only after acquiring some weird kind of arthritis. Download her free eBook, Find Your Path Now, to learn how to listen to your heart.